Recover Control: Living Will vs Durable Power of Attorney

Recover Control: Living Will vs Durable Power of Attorney
April 29, 2026
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End-of-Life
A living will and a durable power of attorney serve different purposes. Here is what each one does, when you need both, and how to make sure your family is actually covered.

Most people have one of these documents. Very few have both.

April 29, 2026

Which should you choose?

For most people, having both provides the most protection. A living will captures your firm preferences. A durable power of attorney allows someone who knows you to handle decisions that can’t be predicted. If you’re uncomfortable naming a proxy, a living will alone is better than nothing. If you feel more comfortable with a trusted person speaking for you, you might prioritise the power of attorney. Talk with your family and doctor to decide what feels right.

How to create these documents

  1. Reflect on your values. Think about what makes life worth living for you.
  2. Discuss your wishes. Talk with loved ones about your values and what matters most.
  3. Choose a health care proxy. Pick someone who knows you well, understands your beliefs and is willing to advocate for your wishes.
  4. Find your state’s forms. Many states provide free templates for living wills and durable powers of attorney. Hospitals and the National Institute on Aging’s website are good places to start.
  5. Fill them out. Use clear language. Some forms require witnesses or notarization.
  6. Share and store them. Give copies to your proxy, family and doctor. Keep the originals in a safe but accessible place.
  7. Review periodically. Revisit your documents every few years or after major life changes.

Frequently asked questions

Kinnect's What Matters Most tool is a free, physician-reviewed reflection guide that helps individuals and families start these conversations before they become urgent. It takes about 15 minutes and produces a private summary you can share or keep. No account required.

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omar alvarez

Founder & CEO, Kinnect | Co-founder, Urge Candies

Omar Alvarez grew up in Chicago the son of Puerto Rican and Guatemalan immigrants. He went on to work at the headquarters of Nike, Levi's, and Hilton Hotels before co-founding Urge Candies and founding Kinnect. He builds things that bring communities and families together—whether through shared physical experiences (candy) or private digital spaces (Kinnect). He writes about memory, connection, and what it actually takes to keep the people you love close.

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