What Are Our Relationship Efforts at War With?

What Are Our Relationship Efforts at War With?
April 29, 2026
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From Omar
We're technically connected, yet lonelier. What's truly pulling us away from the people who matter? This reflection uncovers the real reasons.

Something is working against us. Here is what I think it is.

April 29, 2026

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it means to make an effort, and what it means to be in a relationship, or a friendship, or in long-term care for someone.

I’m Omar, and I’m the founder and CEO of Kinnect, an early-stage startup focused on improving relationships by using memories to bond and bring families closer. Memories can be digital, lasting through generations, or printed in a book. Some are shared, some are unspoken. Often, they become the most important treasures in our lives. They represent the people who came before us, the people still with us, and they sometimes offer insight we wouldn’t have otherwise.

When I think about who we’re really fighting with when we say we’re too busy to improve or maintain a relationship, I realize it’s often the people we love the most. The ones we care about. The ones we think about. The ones we regret drifting from.

So who are we actually at odds with? As a society, who are we drawing lines against?

We’re lonelier than ever. One in four people globally feel lonely. Depression rates are rising. Mental health systems are under attack. Yet there are so few things designed to help us improve our relationships or bring us closer.

At the same time, parasocial relationships are becoming normalized. People fall in love with influencers or celebrities they don’t know. We say we’re too busy to send a message, to leave a voice note, or to make a call. But we spend over eight hours a day on our phones.

Why is that?

Why is it so hard to say something as simple as "I'm sorry"?

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omar alvarez

Founder & CEO, Kinnect | Co-founder, Urge Candies

Omar Alvarez grew up in Chicago the son of Puerto Rican and Guatemalan immigrants. He went on to work at the headquarters of Nike, Levi's, and Hilton Hotels before co-founding Urge Candies and founding Kinnect. He builds things that bring communities and families together—whether through shared physical experiences (candy) or private digital spaces (Kinnect). He writes about memory, connection, and what it actually takes to keep the people you love close.

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